Shooter

I volunteered for the shooter to give me the seasonal flu vaccine. Every other year I have opted out. However, to be the best pod for our baby it was a necessary evil. The things you do for your unborn. I don’t usually get mixed into the winter bug hype, but after last year’s head-on experience with the flu I am onboard to be vaccinated. I have also been advocating this to friends and family.

When I was admitted we learned area hospitals have a new flu season policy: only (2) two other people in the delivery room and no one under the age of 18 to be allowed in the ward. I am not sure if visitors will be allowed. If people are allowed to come after the birth (but not be present) the policy will makes no sense!

Okay, so only two helpers during labor and delivery? One word: ludicrous. How will this change my birthing experience?

When I learned of this change my thoughts instantly went to my support group. The people in my room were key to my comfort and success of natural labor. Adam relied on Mom when he needed relief and visa versa. I can only imagine it being difficult to watch and offer the ‘right’ support to a fully induced laboring woman opting for natural labor who swiftly changes her needs just as quickly as the contractions come. Towards the end there was great relief in the room when Teresa and Auntie L arrived. I think Adam and Mom needed new support for themselves and for me. When it was time to push all hands were on deck. All four (Adam, Mom, Teresa and Auntie L) team members had a job. I feel dependant on having them with me for this birth.

Having support to help me move positions, talk, laugh, wipe my tears, hold the vomit bucket, walk with me, feed me chips as I white knuckle the bed rail was all important. Having someone looking me in the eye, counting down the contractions and reminding me to breathe slowly was imperative to my natural childbirth. While this person is focused (and occasionally lying!) regarding the contraction reads someone else is getting a wash rag or updating the family.

The room had a well oiled team. I was so proud of them and so honored to feel their love. The support was central to my birth plan choice and it is again. I feel my options are being stripped. I get two freaking people! Really, only two people in that room with me? Considering that after Kaden was born our midwife gave Adam an honorary ‘doula’ title I will allow him in. It clearly has nothing to do with the fact he is the father, for this seems so old fashioned. It is kind of like birthing with out say, a team! Two people; only two people in the room will be allowed. Sigh.

Women have labored alone or with just a midwife for centuries. I know it can be done. But in a time when medicine and midwifery has evidence that support is essential to a better birthing experience support our chosen should be allowed. I can have a home birth. I am sure this would please the masses. Okay, what if each person of my team had proof of vaccination for both the seasonal flu and H1N1? Could I have my birthing party?

I am all about hope and compromise. I will keep the hope that visitors will be allowed to meet our new addition. I have no doubt I will try to compromise to have more people into my room throughout the process. I will happily line up a shooter to vaccinate my much needed team.

So, ladies, get in line.